I'll start this entry off with a paraphrased bit of conversation with an old crush from high school.
[old-crush] Wow so you work as a ******. That must pay well. Now I see why
you have a nice car!
[Black-M] Um... It pays enough to pay the bills.
[old-crush]That and paying for nice dates. I am sure you must have tons and
tons of dates.. [awkward pause]..right?
[Black-M stares blankly] ....not
really no......
[old-crush can't hide her excitement] Oh, That is too
bad! Hey you want to
do something this weekend? We can catch up with each
other more or something!
[Black-M] Maybe, Depends on what I'm doing.....
Anyway I gotta go.
I am sure some people would read that and think "You're so dumb! She totally wanted you and you use to have a crush on her right? You have a chance with her now" Indeed, She was pretty damn transparent. Thing is she is just one of quite a few girls from high school this past year who are started to roll around and all of a sudden start dropping hints and some of them I indeed were attracted to in high school and would ask them out.
Here is where the rant starts. You see it isn't a coincidence that this only started to happen this year. People talk especially over myspace and now that I have my life together and I am making plenty of money. All of a sudden high school girls who rejected me hard 6-7 years are making an effort to come talk to me and very quickly the "lets catch up chat" turns into "I heard you had a crush on me in high school/Remember when you asked me out" to "I just dumped my last boyfriend he was such a jerk" "Hey, You aren't dating anybody right now and neither am I..." Now don't get the wrong idea, This isn't about how they rejected me years before. What gets me is the fact that each one of them are all from the same mold.
They have gained nearly 100 pounds since high school. They all have at least one kid and one had 2 and one more on the way.....Yes, Pregnant with a child and trying to steer the conversation into "dating" after 10 minutes prior telling me the father of her baby on the way is in prison. Not only are they all become fat and already have children. They are all broke, Poor and in debt. Then among the first topic that gets brought up is my job and how much money I am making. Then about how many "jerk" and "loser" men they have been meeting.... Then about what a nice and good guy I was.Then ask about some gossip they heard about my dating habits and a general shakedown on my love life.... Then the flirting starts.
How fucking offensive. When they are broke, When they have lost their attractiveness and they are still living with their parents with their fatherless children. That is when I am finally "desirable" eh? Worse yet, They ALL get offended when I am not jumping at the chance to wine and dine them. I've got quite a few ear fulls of bitching about how I blew them off. A few got it right however. While they were complaining about how much of an asshole I was since I was doing so well and they aren't I must think I am better than they are now. Yes, That was it 100 percent. Why shouldn't I? They decided to mess around with losers the past 5-6 years. Now at the age of 24-25, Their parents are sick of them in their house still. Father of their children are in jail. They don't make enough on welfare/low wage job. Then they feel those same men they looked down on for not being aggressive enough, Attractive enough or just didn't have that charisma 5-6 years ago that their thug boyfriends had. Who instead focused on getting their life together while they sat on the sidelines. When I explain this out their only response was always "Wow so you are bitter." No, That isn't it all. I just know my worth. Not that my worth mattered to these women.
Women who complain about how they only can find "losers" for men only have to look at themselves. They spent their most attractive years chasing after no future thugs then expect "decent" guys to come pick them up after they have been used up. After they have 3 kids by 2 different fathers. After they have become fat. Save them from welfare or a low wage job so they can be lazy at home with a better and bigger house.
No thanks. I'm worth more than that.
13 comments:
Hey, man, like your blog. Well reasoned. Keep it up. Takes a while to get traffic.
Maybe ask for a sidebar link a few places. E.B. and MRA Revolutionary for two. This is good stuff more people should read.
Hell, I'd like to force people to read it. I'm talking face plant.
Regarding how you treat those worthless women that suddendly see the light:
A-F*ckin'-Men!
Keep up the great Blogging!
B.M,
Welcome to the movement brothaman!
There's a quite a few black men around, Youngbuck and myself, among others.
I totally feel where you are coming from.
In my professional life, I got all kind of chicks trying to holla, because they see nothing but dollar signs.
The only thing that saves me is my wedding ring.
Keep blogging, keep spreading the word!
Peace.
Damn good post, man. Just found this blog. Love your stuff.
good job bro stand your ground these girls think they can be party girls get fucked left and right and then expect some guy to put a ring on their finger wat a joke im glad u stood ur ground more guys gotta be like this. Im sure you work hard for your money as do I. Theres no need to throw it away on a girl who rejected you in the past, and now all of a sudden because shes gettin desperate and old, thinks you will be with her. Good job
You can make those uncomfortable conversations very easy. After I turned 30, two women I always liked back in high school came looking for me at my parent's home. Both times, I took their phone numbers and called them.
They were very excited to hear from me and knew I was doing well financially. When they suggested getting together, I told them they would be bored with me.
Me: "Think about the last five guys you dated. Were they anything like me?"
Girl: "No, they were a lot different than you."
Me: "Still, they were exciting and interesting enough to date, right?"
Girl: "I guess so."
Me: "What I'm saying is that you knew I wasn't your type back in high school - and I'm not the type of guy you've been dating recently. I'll admit I will always have a crush on you, but we both know I'm not the kind of guy you date."
Usually this line of argument is so gentle that they cannot get angry. It does bother them, but they know there is no date coming so they end the conversation quickly.
lol. Stupid bitches. Looked at you like an ant in high school. Now you have to beat them with a stick when you're the one making dough. Silly hoes.
Funny how the bitches who call guys losers back then cry now for them. Tough shit on them all. It seems that no race is immune from this juvenile bullshit. For the longest time I thought that only whites pulled this crap on other whites but it seems like I have been proven wrong on this.
You are worth more than that, and never forget it, man!!!
Anonymous age 67
I'm not surprised. But at the same same time I thought only white women were like this. And white women are the worst.
I'm in the exact same situation. I grew up in a small all white low income town. I was constantly passed over for druggies and tattooed guys, complete losers.
I thought things would change in college but they did not. I wanted these women blatantly party their youth away sucking and fucking every variety of player, wanna be DJ, wanna be rock star, frat guy and football player. It wasn't just some of them. It was MOST of them. They would go to on Spring Break and have sex with 5-10 different guys in 2 weeks.
I even knew girls who willingly let guys take turns on them at parties.
I talked to some of these guys about how they felt about this and they all said the same thing "I'm having my fun now". I said what about your husband? "He will never find out". They would all talk about how they were going to "settle down" with a nice guy when they got older. When I would ask why not nwo they would say they were looking for fun and he was boring and "that guy will always be there for me". In other words - THEY PLANNED IT OUT.
It's not so much this that bothers me but the guys who fall for it or don't see it.
Everyone is different but in out morally defunct society enough girls are like this - you cannot separate the good ones from the bad ones. On top of that they are trying to present themselves as "good girls" because they are in a situation were their clock is ticking and they feel "entitled" to the good guy responsible father with a good income.
I noticed this one day when I went to rent a house in Redondo Beach and met the most geeky nerdy Boeing Engineer Iv'e ever seen. He OWNED the house and in case you don't know Redondo Beach is like top dollar. I was expecting to see a pretty girl. Instead he was living with a women 5 years older with 3 kids from another guy. I'm like are those your kids? He's like no they are here's. WTF?!
That's when I put the pieces together and realized this guy was being VICTIMIZED by this women.
I had worked on my career all through college putting endless hours and all nighters. And seen womens behavior I know this article is 100% correct. And also when I just ask I get called "bitter" and "why does it matter what they did in their past?".
I am 30 years old now and living in Los Angeles, CA. I'm making $108,000.00 per year and am single. I live in an apartment ON THE BEACH and drive a Land Rover and have been killing myself (literally had to go the hospital for work related stress) to be sucessful and my how the heads are suddenly turning! I get noticed by girls who NEVER would have given me the time of day before! Especially white women in their 30's!. Always trying to talk to me, picking lint off my shirt, smiling, asking questions.
I cannot help but feel if I wasn't good enough then why an I good enough now?
:(
Also,
I tried online dating last week. Guess what? MOST of the women emailing are in their 30's.
One ad says WORD FOR WORD
"I'm done dating around - looking for a good guy"
This is a very simple sentence at first glance but looking deeper we find the following translation:
Translation:
"I am done having sex with all the men I wanted in the past. Now I'm ready for a "good guy" to take responsibility for me and pay my bills.
I did not want him before when I was young and in my physical prime - but now that I'm 30 and my looks have nowhere to go but down - I want him.
I will make him pay full price for me - even though most other guys got me at a party or on sale for -90% discount when I was younger and hotter ..of course.
I must sell this used car. I must find a "good man" to buy it. But how will I convince him to buy it? I know... I must pretend it is a "newer car" with lower miles. I must roll back the odometer.
But how do I convince him? I know... I will not let him get my pants off until the 20th date - this will prove to him I'm a "classy women".
Good guys finish first with me."
This makes me laugh and I'm wondering if most guys are unaware of this mentality?
I don't want to see her with a good man because if more women found themselves alone after 30 it would be a good thing it would set an example and other girls would learn:
"If I don't get a good guy in my youth - I will end up like them"
It sounds like you guys were engaging in the same pursuit of non progressive women at that age. The women you're describing (low-paying jobs/multiple children & baby-fathers) are the male equivalent of the men you say they chose over you. I bet they were the ones dressing like sluts and acting out and you ignored the women who were just like you back then: the ones who were studying hard and progressive but weren't in the latest fashion, etc. Now that the hot girls have disappointed you, you want one of the nice girls you didn't give the time of day to marry you now. You sound just like the girls you're describing. What's the difference?
You do realise that women are attracted to social dominance while men are attracted to looks, right? It's evolutionary so stop being so bitter. What you're saying is true but being bitter about it is as useless as older women bitching that their husbands find much younger women attractive. It's evolutionary behaviour. Men want youthfulness because fertility is more likely (to perpetuate our species)and women want socially dominant men who can protect and provide (to ensure the survival of the species after procreation). In high school, what you perceived as a thug was a boy who acted more socially dominant and so unconsciously triggered feelings of attraction in the girls around him. When men get older, it's the ones with the corporate leadership jobs who are more socially dominant and by the same token naturally trigger attraction in women. This is totally evolutionary and there is nothing you can do about it but embrace your new found attractiveness. You will now be attracted to younger women whose male peers are getting rejected by them while you (rich older dudes) are courting them. You will sleep with and reject many of them, creating bitterness in the men their age who can't get a foot in because of the thugs and the older men. They will then get to your age and do the same thing. Cycle of life. It's cruel to all of us.
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