A co-worker has been in the process of divorcing her husband for the past few months. Since you can't really avoid hearing the latest gossip without getting a referral from your friendly HR department(who knew brushing fellow employees off to focus on work was a bad thing?) I've had no choice but to know all about drama it is giving this woman. As somebody else I've told about this put it so well a few weeks back, " She almost makes you never want to marry doesn't it?"
Amen. You see, She is divorcing her husband not because he has been a bad husband or father but because she just doesn't want to be married to him anymore.
Yes. It seems that is all that is needed for a divorce nowadays. In fact, She never loved him to begin with he was just an easy way out and away from her parents when she was younger and he helped her though school. Now, Here is where the "amazing" part comes up. You would think everybody around her would see an issue with admitting that you married some guy out of convenience to yourself only.
Well, Only a few did. Most just nodded their heads in approval and how she is "doing" the right thing.
Can't really disagree with that however. It is the "right" thing to do. Would have been even more of the "right" thing to do if she never married him in the first place. How is the institution of marriage not considered nothing more than a joke at this point? Only a few guys can hear her story and think "that is so completely wrong" nowadays? Don't know about anybody else but it sure shows me my place in the scheme of things. Me, As a man. Is only really here to be used and make life easier for some woman? Worse yet is that people get shocked at the fact that I think it is bullshit. That is where my "misogynist" tag comes from?
I haven't even got to the worse part of it all.
She doesn't want him to pay child support for the kid that was born while they were married. If you noticed the wording I used you won't need to know why but I'll answer anyway. She is scared that he would have ask for a paternity test.
Yes, She doesn't think the kid is his. There was a time where that would have gave you a big ol' "whore" stamp on your forehead. But I guess times are changing as somebody actually tried to convince her to go ahead and try for child support anyway! On the basis that he is another of a father he still should take care of his daughter. Another one chimed in that she should give him a guilt trip if he tries to get a DNA test. After all he should have trust in her if he wasn't some "asshole" jerk. That he should WANT to pay. Not only for the kid he thinks is his. But also for the one she had before they got married. Yea, she was a single teenage mother when he married her. Knew each other throughout high school. Got together their senior year. His parents helped her get though college even. Hell of a scam she ran on that poor guy and his family.
I would bet good money that I already know what kind of guy he was back then and might still be now. Your standard understanding "nice guy" who probably stood at the sidelines while she got banged by the thug who knocked her up and finally got his chance afterwards and was happy for it. The fate of guys who show they give a shit it seems.
Amazing is it not? However blatant it seems to be. It is still wrong to point at times like this and say "This shows what marriage is really about now" yet you will still be ignored by the masses.
Indeed, Pointing out crap like this is where my "misogynist" tag came from. That is amazing. For something to be so blatant yet still not be acknowledged?
And people wonder why I don't see any true reason to get married.
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Quote "Since you can't really avoid hearing the latest gossip without getting a referral from your friendly HR department(who knew brushing fellow employees off to focus on work was a bad thing?) I've had no choice but to know all about drama it is giving this woman."
Dude! Don't tease like that! There's a story there. Share, dammit!
Yup, once again this story shows the place nice guys have in this declining and dying society. Convenient ATM's and babysitters who unwittingly raise thugboyz kids and usually are none the wiser. This saga is one more example why men who do the right thing, who give a damn, who are not a thug or player ought to avoid women and marriage. In this freakshow that passes for a society, why should normal guys join the bedlam and chaos or add to it? Normal men have every reason to withdraw from and ultimately tear down the society that oppresses them. It won't take organzied violence on our part, it only takes enough of us to say NO to women, marriage and having kids with women who screw up their lives and expect us to be their Capt. Save a Ho like that silly AFLAC commerical.
Taras
Good to see you are posting again. You are an interesting and entertaining writer.
I'm only 36 and I'm looking around asking "What the hell just happened to America!?" The author of this piece is entirely correct: any man who allows himself to be suckered into a vow simply does not have all the facts. Every man needs to be shouting this from the rooftops! Hey, guess what feminists, the jig is up. You can take your Matriarchix and cram it.
Consider this, since he is the only "father" that the child knows, I think/believe legally he will be considered the "father".
And therefore, he must pony up and pay child support.
I might be wrong, but I believe that might be true. I like your blog, but unfortunately it is not updated often. I'm thinking I'll eventually start a blog myself on the disparities that exist in the US with men and women and more importantly how it relates to, you know, black people. But I might even include stuff like the justice system, the war on drugs and crap like that.
Well good to hear see more posts anyway.
Post more please.
You live in SD? What part? I'm in Palm City.
The man being divorced needs to talk to a family law attorney very soon. In at least one state of which I am aware, if a man signs the birth certificate as father he is later precluded from arguing that he is not liable for child support. This rule is applied even if a later DNA test proves he is not the father. This rule may apply to the location of the divorce discussed in the post.
Another thing he needs to discuss is the local "child support" (aka alimony) regime. In some places if a woman decides not to seek child support and later changes her mind the man designated as liable for child support (who may not be the biological father - see previous paragraph) can be billed by the local welfare agency for back support they paid the mother. He may think he's getting off lightly now, but he may later get presented a five-figure bill for back child support.
Date good Christian women man, the kind who really believe in the Lord and FEAR Hell.
Secular sluts have no 'right and wrong' programmed in them. There are no "Thou shalt not lie's" and "Thou shalt not steal's" and "Thou shalt not commit adultury's" in their mind-set.
God's greatest punishment on the kinds of women you describe in your post is ageing. Someday, she will be old and ugly, and no one will give a damn about her, even her kid. Nobody will care about her "personal" life, men wont check her out at the grocery store, and her grandchildren will have no use for her (since her son or daughter wont give a shit about her either). Its what they deserve.
That chick is a whore and she is what is wrong with most women today. Still, I can't get too worked up about that guy. HE MARRIED A CHICK THAT ALREADY HAD A BABY. That she had a baby prior shows her immaturity and lack of judgment.
Add to the fact that he had his parents help pay her way through college?? I hope he gets through the divorce lightly with being severely punished by this slut. Still, the guy needs better judgment.
VEE
please do start up that blog. such a blog as you describe is needed. We need more brothas blogging about how feminism has helped to destroy our community. BTW, VEE, I love the drawings on your blog. Really cool. I need to get to drawing again, myself.
TBM, everyone is right: you need to get back to posting again.
Lets see, this bonehead marries a teen mom while still in the prime of his youth. If he was that set on getting married young he could have had a virgin at that age and broke her in himself.
Yeah, we all know that single moms obviously put out, but why marry one and raise another mans flesh and blood progeny for 18 years while the "Babys' Daddy" is out banging other women and enjoying his freedom at your expense?
I'm trying hard to feel sorry for this sap, I really am, but I think this gal just could no longer deal with being married to a sucker with such little self respect as to marry a selfish teen bitch such as herself.
This may just be the devil in me talking but I hope she takes him to the cleaners if for no other reason than to serve as an example and warning to other, smarter young men that chivalry is now considered pussiness and no longer respected by todays feminized young women.
Only once ALL men start rejecting the skanks and drama queens with baggage en mass leaving them to a bright future of stray cats and rubber dildoes will the younger generation of girls get the hint and make themselves classy ladies suitable for marriage by REAL men who won't settle for anything less.
Hi BM,
I'm caucasian/50 /female/ physician/ mother of 3 teens. I perused your posts; you sound adorable. You've had some tough extended-family and 4th grade experiences, but don't succumb to bitterness. Thanks for sharing.
Of COURSE she's "Doing the right thing". Women stick together because WOMEN HATE MEN. If they didn't need us they would gladly torture every man on earth to death to show that they are WOMAN!!111 and we should fear them. Women hate men, bar none, amen.
Could we swap links. I have an MRA weblog at http://mikeeusa.blogspot.com . (If you do put a link
to it please tell me in a comment on one of the articles so I know).
Date good Christian women man, the kind who really believe in the Lord and FEAR Hell.
You haven't seen the whores that show up in church and pretend to be "good girls".
I'm trying hard to feel sorry for this sap, I really am, but I think this gal just could no longer deal with being married to a sucker with such little self respect as to marry a selfish teen bitch such as herself.
This may just be the devil in me talking but I hope she takes him to the cleaners if for no other reason than to serve as an example and warning to other, smarter young men that chivalry is now considered pussiness and no longer respected by todays feminized young women.
Well said. I too am tired of these chivilristic clowns and I love to see them hoisted on their own petard,especially when a lot of them badmouth MRA's.
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